Being superficially considerate

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We may try to do what we think is best for someone else, but not realize that this might actually be imposing our assumptions onto them. Derek Sivers put it succinctly as:

Being superficially considerate can be inconsiderate.

Doing the opposite can actually be more considerate, which Derek has coined “meta-considerate”.

So, instead of putting someone else up on a pedestal (where they can only look down on you), try being more authentically you and let them come to you.

Whether it is love, business, or pretty much anything in life, offering your truest self is the most powerful way to make connection and the best recipe for success. You will still fail here and there, but at least you are doing it on your terms, not trying to pander to what you imagine others will want.